There’s No Room For Your Bullsh*t Here

There’s No Room For Your Bullsh*t Here

Since I posted a very raw and honest post about still being a virgin during my mid 20’s, I have become subject to utter bullsh*t. The kind where I just can’t believe where and who it’s come from. Claiming multiple lies. Why would I lie about something so personal and TRUE? Do they not know how hard it was for me to publish the post or how nervous I was because of the nature of said post?

I had no intention and did not degrade or ‘ridicule’ this person, who I can probably guess you all know the name of, when I published the post because let’s be honest. It’s nothing to do with them. It doesn’t give them the right to basically slander my name to his friends and some of mine. I know I don’t usually call people out on things or talk ill of people, especially on my blog, but this person definitely deserves at least ten backhanders across the face. If anything, you gave the post waaaay more publicity I thought it would get so thanks.

Like I said on Instagram, I’m not removing the post. So grow a pair. This is the last I’m going to speak about this.

Learning to be more confident

The back end of 2020, quite frankly, saw me grow into a more confident woman. Before I would be very picky about what I told people and what I posted on my blog, but I’ve soon learned my ramblings actually help others. The response to my posts in the past have been amazing and I love writing for you. I won’t let a tiny roadblock get in the way. My posts aren’t for everyone, I get that, but sometimes silence is the best way to deal with your opinions.

My Nana gave me a book titled “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k” for Christmas a couple of years ago. Regrettably, I’ve had it tossed to the side since that Christmas as I thought nothing of it but now it’s looking more appealing. I’ve noticed a lot of self care and self improvement books floating about on Instagram so I will definitely give this one a read before I think about investing in another one. Look out world, Niamh’s coming.

Growing A Pair of Lady Balls

You’re right in thinking I have a Spotify playlist of songs which make me feel like that bad bitch. I think everyone has one of them and if you don’t – make one. 2020 saw a lot of obstacles thrown my way but I came out a better person. Honestly, I feel so much lighter too. I don’t have anything or anyone else to worry about but myself. 21st June cannot come any quicker, just keep following the rules kids and we’ll be able to hug everyone we’ve missed.

Since October, I feel I have truly become myself. Feeling like I can talk to Alice and Chris about anything, being more open with you on here and doing what I want, when I want has really had a positive impact on me. Last year, I wouldn’t have even thought twice about deleting a post because a few people didn’t like the content. People just need to move on, I thought we ended on good terms – clearly others thought different. Read the comments, I’ve helped people. Don’t be ashamed to be somewhat ‘behind’ your friends.

No, I’m Not Conforming to So Called Social Standards

My thoughts when releasing my virgin post were no one was going to want to read about my experience. Turns out you did. Thank you. Being on furlough for the past two months for the fourth time, not being able to see my friends everyday and feeling deflated hasn’t helped when I’m trying to produce content. So when I’ve finished the month with the second best monthly views and a second most read post on my site, I feel very overwhelmed.

Have you seen Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging? You know the scene where Georgia reevaluates her life after encounters with Robbie, Jaz and her family? I feel I’m at that stage of my twenties. Take your own time with life. There’s always going to be setbacks, but rise above in your own damn way. Don’t let anyone else tell you what’s right or wrong. We’re all individuals and learning in our own unique ways. I always felt I had to follow in everyone’s footsteps but now I know I have to lead by my own example. Try it, it’s fun and freeing. You got this.

Niamh x

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12 Comments

  1. 01/03/2021 / 17:48

    You go girl! I was so impressed with your bravery for sharing your experiences in your last post and it truly will help to reassure people that there is no right or wrong time to do certain things – we are all on our own journey. I agree with you that your post was not degrading or ridiculing your ex – it was about you and your personal experience! x

    • Niamh Darby
      Author
      01/03/2021 / 17:49

      Thank you so much! Thank you for reading too! X

  2. 01/03/2021 / 18:38

    You go girl! You can write about what you want, it’s great that you felt comfortable to write about something personal in the hope of helping others. I’ve so much respect for you! I too need to grow some lady balls so thank you for the inspiration! Much love x

    • Niamh Darby
      Author
      01/03/2021 / 18:51

      Thank you! X

  3. Shyla Elza
    01/03/2021 / 23:23

    I think your last post was very brave and of course it is your story to tell. I am sorry you had to deal with negativity over it. It’s just a situation to grow and learn from like many other obstacles in life. Great post Niamh!

  4. 02/03/2021 / 17:55

    YESS well said gal! Feels so refreshing to read something so honest and open and can’t believe you received negativity from it. I for one LOVE your blog and content, keep it up! xo

    • Niamh Darby
      Author
      02/03/2021 / 18:34

      Thank you chick! Thank you for your kind words as well, lots of love and hugs being sent your way xxx

  5. 02/03/2021 / 18:08

    Hope you’re okay Niamh! Who you chose to share information with regarding your own personal experiences is up to you. Keep your head up, your blog is amazing and that’s thanks to you being so honest and authentic!

    • Niamh Darby
      Author
      02/03/2021 / 18:35

      Thank you! I know my content isn’t for everyone but to react in the way they did just isn’t on! X

  6. 03/03/2021 / 16:17

    The fact that people have given you negativity about your last post is shocking, the nerve of some people! I loved your honesty in that post and I also love your honesty in this post too! I hope you are ok Niamh x

    Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk

    • Niamh Darby
      Author
      03/03/2021 / 16:22

      Thank you – I’m fine, just needed to vent really! Onward and upward is the goal! X

  7. 03/03/2021 / 16:54

    Love this! Don’t let anyone else tell you what you should be doing. Looking forward to reading more of your posts 🙂

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